The hole in the dough-nut

We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise

2nd Corinthians 10:12 (NIV)

One day when we were having some ‘catch up’ time with my husband while enjoying a cup of tea, he shared something. He said, ‘I don’t understand why some people see only the hole in the dough-nut. ‘Why?, I ask curiously. ‘Something happened today’, he said. I listened.

It occurred that he had met an old friend from high school days and the discussion that ensued was about at which stage they are at in their lives. The gentleman stated that he had done a masters degree and graduated and had a family . The child is going to school, and he was doing this and that. The gentleman went ahead to ask my husband why he had not pursued a masters degree and how come he had not had this or that with an inclination that hey..I am way ahead of you. At the end of the day, my husband felt worse than the excitement would have been expected of meeting an old friend.

The first time I read 2nd Corinthians 10:12 it was sort of like a pan because we were sharing with a friend and she told me that she got see a tongue twister in the bible. Its easy to meet an old friend and all you have to do is to start comparing what they have you don’t have and vice- versa. I think its too much work when we compare ourselves when God has created each o us uniquely for a unique purpose. So what if I have a house and you are still paying rent, does that make you less of a person than you already are. I believe we become what we think. Proverbs 23:7(KJV), ‘For as he thinketh in his heart so is he’. When we compare ourselves with other people irregardless of who they are, we are not living our lives appropriately rather we are living other peoples lives.

I am not saying we should not emulate what other people have done especially if they positively influence us. Paul was addressing Corinthians who commend themselves with themselves and eventually make us feel bad about ourselves. In other occasions, we have compared ourselves with others and end up degrading them. The bible says clearly, they that do that are not wise.Well, wouldn’t want to be a fool.

I read an anonymous quote recently that said, “Too many days are wasted comparing ourselves to others and wishing to be something we aren’t. Everybody has their own strengths and weaknesses, and it is only when you accept everything you are – and aren’t – that you will truly succeed.” That is truly profound.

May we accept the love of Christ and know that God made each of us uniquely and for a purpose. The need would be to ask myself if I am living according to His purpose in Christ Jesus.

Its time to see the dough-nut and not the hole in the dough-nut. Thank God and appreciate for what you have and be sensitive when sharing with others about your life without beating your chest. :-)

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